Not too long ago, I posted that Baby Puppy and I had just spent our very first night apart. Our separation was unplanned and involuntary, and, at the time that I posted, I had no idea how Baby Puppy had responded to my absence. Now, I do.
According to Daddy Zen, Baby Puppy did just fine until bedtime. Then, she started asking for and about Mama. Then, she wailed and screamed for Mama. About 2 AM, she finally gave up and passed out. In Daddy Zen's words, "She survived."
Since Baby Puppy's triumphant "survival," Daddy Zen has been agitating to send Baby Puppy to her Mamaw's house for a sleep-over with her cousins. If I didn't know better, I would think that the man has an agenda . . . anyway, according to him, she would be "fine." Well, I'm sure that she would, but . . .
Do you think that it's fair to send my child to my Mom (who is in very poor health, by the way), knowing full well that the child is probably going scream like a banshee until the wee hours of the morning? My husband thinks that I'm coddling the child. I think that it's rude, if not downright criminal, to expect someone else (anyone else) to handle my daughter in the midst of a "call the exorcist" fit.
Feel free to tell me that I'm right, so that I can tell my husband that he's wrong!
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17 comments:
Take two Xanax and come see me in the morning no matter what you decide. Thank you!
If your Mom is in poor health, don't do it. However, if she is already watching other kids then what's one more. The poor woman isn't going to get any sleep anyway...
interesting post. my mom is very hands on with my girls and her 4 other grandchildren. BUT it is still work for her. my in laws are NO HANDS on what so ever. it is bothersome to me when hubby says we should go away. I ask him who will watch the kids. he says your mom. as if it is the easiest thing for her to do. my mom helps out but i would never leave her with both kids for more than a night...like you said, i think it is rude. if my mom was not in good health i would only do it out of a real need (ie wedding)
My mom has wanted to do it for a long time. I just don't want her to have a night in hell.
I dunno ... but Baby Puppy might surprise everyone. How far away is Grandma? Can she get help if needed?
Hugs and blessings,
Oh that's hard, I wouldn't put my mother thru it if she was in poor health. On the other hand, maybe if baby puppy knows and is prepared she won't be as upset. With other children there it may make it easier for her..... good luck with it, whatever you decide.
I don't know the answer but gotta say that photo is beautiful. Precious...
i think you're right but if it were up to me i think i'd still make opportunities for her to learn to go to sleep without you. i (personally) don't think you should have your mom try it until the situation is somewhat improved, mostly b/c she is in poor health.
good luck. :)
You hubby is WRONG, WRONG, WRONG! It's cruel to your mother. Does he really hate her that much? She's not in good health, so why should she be expected to deal with that?
I would probably feel differently if my Mom wasn't an hour and a half away!
Sounds like cruel and unusual punishment to both your mother and your child. First of all screaming and crying until pasing out in the middle of the night is no where near "fine", and secondly shouldn't parenting be about a bit more than "she survived".
My vote is no way, not until she's ready on her terms. He's an adult, he can deal with it and let her be the child.
I've announced you as the winner, congratulations!
With the poor health, I understand your apprehension.
The other side is, at some point or another, it just may be helpful for baby puppy to sleep somewhere else. For you. But for her too. Then she gets to learn the joy of returning home, reconnecting, knowing the world didn't end.
Let us know what you decide.
I would definatly say she isn't ready.
I would however start making an effort to help her get used to going to sleep without you.
Say maybe leave her with hubby while you go shopping or something right before bedtime. Give her practice. Maybe have hubby call your cell when she goes to sleep and you can come home....or call you if there is no hope. At least then you'll have more to base the decision on than just one time. KWIM?
Everyone but me is convinced that Baby Puppy would be too busy playing with her cousins to miss me. I'm just not so sure.
I am all for kids spending time with their grandparents, but getting there is a process.... If it will be taxing on your mom, it might be better to wait 6 months or so. Kid change so quickly. At that time, you can ask Baby Puppy how she feels about it and if she thinks she can handle it. It may work better if it is not a surprise and you can prepare her...?
Although she would be distracted during the day playing with her cousins, etc., at night comes the "witching hour". At bedtime she will definitely notice you were not there.
You are NOT coddling her! She gets security from knowing you are there when she goes to sleep. It is something that should lessen over time, but to ask someone else to handle her while going cold-turkey, is asking too much.
My daughter was very much the same way as a child. She would sleep for me and my husband but when my sister would have her for the night, she would cry herslf to sleep in the wee hours of the morning.
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